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Complete transcript: Did you experience parentification? here’s how to tell

Therapist: If you were the firstborn daughter, there's a high chance you are the most parentified sibling. Growing up you learn to care take people around you in order to manage your environment. Maybe you listen to your mom complain about your dad, or you cleaned up after your siblings because you knew if there was a mess, your dad would go into a rage.

And during all of this, you didn't have a parent who was noticing your anxiety.
You didn't have someone to reflect back your reality back to you, which is actually how you develop a sense of self. You might have even had a parent who denied what was happening. Or who pretended that what was happening wasn't happening at all. Making you even more anxious and making you want to control the situation even more. So from a young age, you're wired to please and smooth things over. You believe that the only way to be seen is through achievement. By being easy or by projecting the image of a perfect family. You're always performing because you learn that's the only way to be seen.
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The Holistic Psychologist, Dr. Nicole Lepera
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