Growing up invisible: the impact of being the invisible child

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Complete transcript: Growing up invisible: the impact of being the invisible child

Mom: You just take care of yourself honey.

Child: I sure do.

Mom: It's not like you're even there.
Child: You've noticed.
Mom: Such an easy child.
Child: I'm more quiet and the chaos in this home is way too much for me. I've learned to just not cause any issues. Most of the time I'm just in my room and daydreaming. I watch TV shows and pretend that I'm part of a completely different family.
Mom: Yeah, you're always in your room. You don't really talk to us or tell us what's going on in your life.
Child: Okay, here's what I'm learning: I'm expected to just be okay, which really means invisible. The more I keep to myself, the more I'm rewarded for being good. And you don't think it's necessary to check in on me or ask how I'm doing or see what I'm interested in. I seem like the stable one in the family, but as an adult I'll really struggle. I won't know how to express myself or ask for help. I'll completely deny any of my own needs in every kind of relationship. I'll be so afraid to rock the boat, that I'll just people please. And when things get stressful for me, I'll just withdraw and spend time alone. And feel completely misunderstood.