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The generational trauma cycle
Complete transcript:
This is a real example of how generational trauma actually shows up. A grandmother is raised in a chaotic and unstable environment. This grandmother had to clean up the house take care of her siblings always scan the environment to notice if her dad was drinking or her mom was going to lay in bed for hours from a depressive episode.

That grandmother has a daughter who overcorrects in a subconscious attempt to heal from her own childhood. Her daughter notices her mom is highly anxious smothering and overbearing. When she tries to get space from her mom , her mom says I wish I had a mother who actually cared. And the daughter pulls far and farther away from her.

Her daughter copes with these conflicting emotions by becoming avoidant daughter grows up and has her own daughter. This daughter is a highly sensitive child she cries a lot she's emotionally needy and she wants physical touch and soothing to calm her nervous system. this triggers her mother because it reminds her of the helplessness she felt in her own childhood from her mom's overbearing nature.

When her child cries or becomes needy for attention she punishes the child calls her too sensitive or ignores her completely. Over time the daughter learns that she's only loved when she's easy. And when she represses her emotions she becomes a people pleaser. The daughter ends up with men who require her to suppress her own emotions and needs and who need her to take care of them.

She's comfortable in this role because it's the same role she experienced growing up with her mother. She stays with these men because a part of her feels like a burden that her sensitivity and her neediness is something to be ashamed of and to hide. She believes if she were to speak up around what she needs she'll be emotionally abandoned like she was in childhood and that's too painful for her to experience.

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