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Complete transcript:
The hardest part of having a mother who you know is hurting and needs healing is that you try over and over again to get close to her or to get through to her, and she just can't let you in. Her own trauma runs so deep that the only way she knows how to exist is to be highly defensive. So anytime her past is triggered, she gets more and more defensive, which means that she has to win an argument or prove her own point. This puts you in a position where you feel helpless because you can't build a closer relationship with anyone who always has to be right or can never admit their flaws or regret.

She doesn't consciously know this, but your role is to not to disappoint or challenge her. In her psyche, a child is supposed to be the one person who doesn't betray her and who gives her unconditional love. And to her, unconditional love is unconditional adoration, acceptance, and appreciation. Anything else, and she feels like she's being betrayed. There's nothing wrong with you for wanting to be seen, heard, and understood. But your mother can't give that to you because she's not looking for an emotionally intimate relationship with you. She's looking for you to rescue or save her from her internal feelings of shame and unworthiness, a role that you'll never be able to fill. If you want to learn more, you can pre-order my book, Reparenting the Inner Child.

#innerchild #innerchildhealing #familydynamics #motherdaughter #motherwound
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Spiritual
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Dr. Nicole, The SelfHealers Circle, How to be the love you seek
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