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complete transcript: You’re so mature for your age—A compliment or a burden?
Parent: You're so mature for your age
Child: It's because I've developed a coping mechanism where I suppress how I actually feel, so I can meet your needs.
Parent: Yah, you're just so aware of everything I want. You know exactly how to be a good little little girl for mommy. I just love that about you. You're the easiest child unlike your brother.
Child: Well I just adapted in a different way than he has, because my emotional needs aren't met at all here. I've developed this uncanny ability to read your emotions and to step in when I need to with fights between you or dad or to comfort you when you're upset. Because I deal with such adult things all the time, rather than just playing with my friends or coloring, I seem so mature for my age. My brother copes with the facts that our needs aren't being met, by acting out or trying just to get attention from you. You don't see that though. You tell him how difficult he is all the time.
Parent: You're my best little buddy.
Child: I sure am, and In 25 years I'm gonna marry someone and put all their needs before my own, and take care of their emotions. I'll be seen as the good wife, but I'll be completely miserable inside and wonder why my life is so unfurling.
Order my books:
"How To Be The Love You Seek"
https://howtobetheloveyouseek.com
"How to Meet Yourself"
https://howtomeetyourself.com
"How to Do the Work"
https://theholisticpsychologist.com/how-to-do-the-work/
Get my FREE Relationship Future Self Journal: https://theholisticpsychologist.com/relationship-future-self-journal/
complete transcript: You’re so mature for your age—A compliment or a burden?
Parent: You're so mature for your age
Child: It's because I've developed a coping mechanism where I suppress how I actually feel, so I can meet your needs.
Parent: Yah, you're just so aware of everything I want. You know exactly how to be a good little little girl for mommy. I just love that about you. You're the easiest child unlike your brother.
Child: Well I just adapted in a different way than he has, because my emotional needs aren't met at all here. I've developed this uncanny ability to read your emotions and to step in when I need to with fights between you or dad or to comfort you when you're upset. Because I deal with such adult things all the time, rather than just playing with my friends or coloring, I seem so mature for my age. My brother copes with the facts that our needs aren't being met, by acting out or trying just to get attention from you. You don't see that though. You tell him how difficult he is all the time.
Parent: You're my best little buddy.
Child: I sure am, and In 25 years I'm gonna marry someone and put all their needs before my own, and take care of their emotions. I'll be seen as the good wife, but I'll be completely miserable inside and wonder why my life is so unfurling.
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