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Complete transcript: If avoidants were honest: What they’re really thinking in relationships

Person 1: We've been together for about nine months and I'm starting to have second thoughts.
Person 2: You just told me how happy you were last week. We don't fight at all we're planning a future together, so this really feels out of nowhere for me.
Person 1: Oh, not for me, I have doubts here and there. I just didn't tell you. I know I gave you reassurance and made you promises, but I just realized we're not compatible.
Person 2: What makes us not compatible?
Person 1: Emotional intimacy makes me feel overwhelmed, like I'm in a pressure cooker. So I've come up with so many reasons why we don't work, and they're all things I like to change about you.
You see I struggle to be introspective and look at myself in the role that I play. Ultimately, I blame my partners, and then I blindside them with a break up.
Person 2: Couldn't we have just had a conversation and try to work things through? If feels like you're throwing away this relationship. And you're not even trying to let me in or see what the issues really are.
Person 1: Oh I am. At this point I've decided this won't work. And I could really have brought this up sooner, but that would require me to be honest about how I feel, and have difficult conversations. It would require me to actually look at myself in the role that I play. And I don't know how to do that, so I run. Alright, I need to self isolate now.
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