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The avoidant cycle
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This is the cycle of someone who has avoidant attachment in a relationship. There is a clear and distinct pattern. Stage one, they start feeling like they have found the perfect person. The second stage is a honeymoon phase they feel like they have finally found the person for them. Because they give them the space that they've always wanted and the freedom to be themselves.

They're not yet facing much conflict, so they don't feel like the person that they're with is needy. Third stage they start to feel pressure from the needs of the other person, and they assume that the issue is within the relationship. This is where they start to fantasize about the past, idealizing.

Their ex-partner or the time when they were single, all of their thoughts are going to be about fleeing or leaving, and this is a key trait of an avoidant. The fourth stage is fleeing. This is where they start actually planning to leave. Sometimes they leave really abruptly. Because avoidance, hate, conflict, and fear make difficult conversations.

The fifth stage is the guilt stage because they've ended the relationship abruptly or without much emotion they sometimes go into a discard state to cope with all of those feelings this is when they act as if you don't exist cut off all communication or try to erase you so that they don't have to feel the loss.

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