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Zero effort family
Complete transcript:

When people think about childhood trauma, they picture homes with screaming, yelling and chaos. But let's talk about the zero-effort family. I see this a lot in my work. And the zero effort family is the family where there isn't actually much conflict.

No one is calling each other names or doing anything outwardly awful. But there also isn't much interest in each other or much care or affection toward each other. People in these families have parents who don't know much about their lives. There are no regular check-ins, and you have this feeling that something is off or different about your family dynamic, but you can't pinpoint exactly what it is.

The conversations are really superficial, maybe about the weather or gossip about other people, and it's really confusing because you feel like familiar strangers. This is emotional neglect,t and it creates real issues with low self-worth, high anxiety, and an overall difficulty understanding how to be close to people in relationships. You didn't really have a blueprint for what supportive relationships even look like.

So, how do you heal if you're from a zero-effort family? One accepts what it is when people don't invest in you, emotionally care about your pain, or celebrate your success; it's a form of emotional abuse. It causes damage, and it leaves us without the relational skills that we need.

What you accept, you can start to change too. Directly ask for your needs to be met. This can be as small as saying, "I'm feeling anxious. Can I have a hug?" Or "I'm a little bit confused about what I'm feeling. Can we talk about it?" It's going to feel really awkward to ask for things from other people because,e over time, you learn that no one is going to be there to help you.

But doing this is going to help you make big changes around how you engage in your relationships. Three, build your own chosen family And this one is really huge for people living in this dynamic.

Your family isn't going to change the way they interact but you can start to build your own close circle of people that you can be really open with who cheer you on and who invest their time and energy into you You can also start to practice being the supportive person that you wish you had to other people And this is really going to help you heal

#emotionalhealing #familydynamics #selfawareness #relationship #selfimprovement
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Spiritual
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Dr. Nicole, The SelfHealers Circle, How to be the love you seek
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