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complete transcript: What the parentified daughter really feels inside
The holistic psychologist: here's what the parentified daughter wants you to know. One or both of her parents were dysfunctional, and I learned that means no one will show up for me or love me the way that I deserve to be loved. Because I learned that I could not depend on people, I started to become hyper independent.
Even though I want love and care more than anyone, I learned that I can't trust love, so I push it away. Sometimes I'm really controlling and a Type A, and this is actually my fear response. I don't want to be controlling, but I was never given the opportunity to sit back and just know that someone else can be relied on. My fantasy is that you can read my mind. That you'll know every part of me without me being vulnerable. Or without me having to tell you exactly what I need, because that that just proves your love for me.
I love extremely hard and I'm incredibly sensitive, but that side of me is not something I'm comfortable showing you. So instead I say I'm fine when I'm not, or I completely shut down. The wall I have up is not something I want to have up. It's something I've had to have up since a young age to survive.
Asking for help terrifies me, so does expressing my feelings. Because I was punished for them or they were invalidated growing up. So what I need more than anything, is your patience and reassurance.
SelfHealers Circle is NOW OPEN
Spaces are limited and do sell out.
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"How To Be The Love You Seek"
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"How to Meet Yourself"
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"How to Do the Work"
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complete transcript: What the parentified daughter really feels inside
The holistic psychologist: here's what the parentified daughter wants you to know. One or both of her parents were dysfunctional, and I learned that means no one will show up for me or love me the way that I deserve to be loved. Because I learned that I could not depend on people, I started to become hyper independent.
Even though I want love and care more than anyone, I learned that I can't trust love, so I push it away. Sometimes I'm really controlling and a Type A, and this is actually my fear response. I don't want to be controlling, but I was never given the opportunity to sit back and just know that someone else can be relied on. My fantasy is that you can read my mind. That you'll know every part of me without me being vulnerable. Or without me having to tell you exactly what I need, because that that just proves your love for me.
I love extremely hard and I'm incredibly sensitive, but that side of me is not something I'm comfortable showing you. So instead I say I'm fine when I'm not, or I completely shut down. The wall I have up is not something I want to have up. It's something I've had to have up since a young age to survive.
Asking for help terrifies me, so does expressing my feelings. Because I was punished for them or they were invalidated growing up. So what I need more than anything, is your patience and reassurance.
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