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Complete transcript: Were you a parentified daughter? | Signs to look for
Therapist: The parentified daughter grows up as a peacemaker in the home, who has to manage everyone else's emotions. She acts like a therapist to one or both of her parents. And never shows her own stress within the chaos. She may appear calm and relaxed but that's because she disassociated years ago to survive in her environment.
The only way her anxiety is soothed is by constantly checking in on other people. (this is called emotional monitoring) And making sure no one feels bad or left out. Through the entire process, her needs go unmet and the only identity she knows is by being a caretaker or the glue of the family. She might even hear from family members that they couldn't live without her or that they would fall apart if she wasn't around. Keep in mind this isn't a compliment, and is a sign that they're actually over-relying on and over-depending upon her. And it's also a reminder to her, that no one even notices she's silently suffering.
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Complete transcript: Were you a parentified daughter? | Signs to look for
Therapist: The parentified daughter grows up as a peacemaker in the home, who has to manage everyone else's emotions. She acts like a therapist to one or both of her parents. And never shows her own stress within the chaos. She may appear calm and relaxed but that's because she disassociated years ago to survive in her environment.
The only way her anxiety is soothed is by constantly checking in on other people. (this is called emotional monitoring) And making sure no one feels bad or left out. Through the entire process, her needs go unmet and the only identity she knows is by being a caretaker or the glue of the family. She might even hear from family members that they couldn't live without her or that they would fall apart if she wasn't around. Keep in mind this isn't a compliment, and is a sign that they're actually over-relying on and over-depending upon her. And it's also a reminder to her, that no one even notices she's silently suffering.
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