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Therapy for Anxious Attachment
Complete transcript:
The holistic psychologist: So what do you want in a relationship?
Person: Someone who truly loves me and who I feel connected with.
The holistic psychologist: And when you get that relationship, what will you do?
Person: At first, I'll be on cloud nine. I love, love. Then I'll get this voice in my head that says they're gonna leave me or betray me in some way. So I'll start to smother them and then accuse them of things. I hate that it. But I have trust issues.
The holistic psychologist: at least you're honest
Person: Then they'll start to pull away because I'm accusing them of things and needing constant reassurance. And I'll see that as proof that they never loved me in the first place.
The holistic psychologist: Exhausting
Person: Yeah, growing up my mother was emotionally unpredictable. Sometimes she was really sweet and loving and other times she was completely cold and shutdown. I never knew what version of her I was gonna get. It's scary to feel loved and the next minute to feel like someone just can't stand your existence.
The holistic psychologist: So your mom's emotional instability created a situation where you feel like people will abandon you in the same way she did or blindside you like she did with her changes in mood.
Person: Exactly
The holistic psychologist: What's one of your biggest triggers in relationships?
Person: Anytime I feel like someone's ignoring me or I feel mood changes. I panic because every time someone's mood changes growing up, something really bad or scary happens. Sometimes I create chaos or drama just so I get the attention that I crave.
The holistic psychologist: And what do you wish people knew?
Person: I don't want to be like this, I wish I could be easy going and relaxed relationships. I wish I didn't always assume the worst and have this urge to smother the people I love. I wish I could be like other people who seem to find relationships easy, instead of all consuming.

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Spiritual
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Dr. Nicole, The SelfHealers Circle, How to be the love you seek
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