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Dating an avoidant?
If an avoidant were fully honest in a relationship.
Complete transcript:

The avoidant: I'm not happy.
Person 1: Okay, what do you mean?

The avoidant: I mean , I actually don't know what I mean. It's just that I don't like our conversations anymore, and I feel like somethings missing. I'm numb there's just no romantic connection between us. And when you try to fill me in about your day I feel irritated. It takes too much of my energy. I keep having thoughts of I'm better off alone. Or maybe there's someone better out there. I have this fantasy about getting my freedom back. But, I don't tell you anything because that would require me to be vulnerable. And there's no way. I feel like you're really fragile and I don't want to tell you anything because it would probably create a fight or conflict and I have no idea how to deal with that. I'm mentally checked out of this relationship, but we still live together.

Person 1:Wow, I really don't know what to say but I wish you told me this sooner.

The avoidant: I feel like you can't deal with the truth, and I think I'm being a good person by staying with you. I almost feel like it's my duty. I'm being deceptive but I don't see it this way. Eventually, I'll start having emotional affairs with people who feel light-hearted and easier, and don't require much from me. And you'll sense something is wrong, but I'll tell you you're being paranoid.
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Spiritual
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Dr. Nicole, The SelfHealers Circle, How to be the love you seek
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