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complete transcript: Understanding avoidant attachment: The fear of getting too close

Avoidant attached partner: this really isn't working out.
Securely attached partner: okay, I understand.
Avoidant attached partner: what? You're not going to try to convince me to stay with you?
Securely attached partner: no why would I do that? You realize that what I offer in a relationship, isn't something that works for you. It's not personal it's just that we're looking for different things.
Avoidant attached partner: okay, maybe I changed my mind. Maybe I just didn't know what we had.
Securely attached partner: well, my mind isn't changed. In relationships, I step back and watch how you love, then I make a choice that aligns for me. Love isn't about performing to be chosen. It's about finding someone who's consistent, and I'm not finding that here. So I think it's best we go our separate ways.
Avoidant attached partner: this isn't how it usually goes.
Securely attached partner: I know because you're used to dating people who are anxiously attached. And when you're inconsistent, they believe it means they need to work harder to be loved. I'm securely attached though, so I see this as a red flag.
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